Method For Getting Rid of Negative Thoughts/Judgments and Just Be In the Moment
I find that negative thoughts and beliefs about myself are directly tied to my thoughts and beliefs of others... For example, the more I think negatively of myself or judge myself, the more I think negatively of others or judge others, and vice versa. Sometimes it's easier for me to be kind to others than to myself, so when I catch myself judging someone else in any way, even just the slightest bit negative, I say to myself, "When I judge others, I do not define them, I define myself." Most of the time I am almost instantly freed from my judgment and negative thought and have a sense of just being. The more I accept this statement, the more I start judging others less and judging myself less. I have fewer and fewer negative thoughts and beliefs throughout the day, which means I have more positive thoughts and feelings throughout the day and feel more freedom to stop worrying and just be myself and pursue my desires.
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When I find myself down...
Mostly it's a feeling that will tip me off. Suddenly I feel annoyed or sad or tense, and I realize my thoughts have taken my mood off track. I take a deep breath, push my face into a smile, and think, "I am so glad..." And I focus on that thougt.
I work in retail. Bad days tend to snowball. Bad tempers are infectious. So I already have experience forcing a smile and making a customer's experience cheerier than I actually feel. But now I 'm using the creative thought process as well, and life is a spiral of joy today.
Maybe I'm walking away from a cranky customer. And I feel tired and spent and the crick in my neck is reminding me that I have to find a different job...and then I catch myself, smile, and think "I am so glad tommorow is my day off." And I picture that day, and I'm happy. There's always something I currently appreciate. But I also use this to create my reality. After an argument with a coworker I'm thinking, "I am so glad I am going to find a better job. One where the demands can be met to everyone's satisfaction." And knowing this will happen for me makes today bearable as it creates tomorrow. And the fake smile is suddenly real.
Happy Day
maragold
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