Why do some success coaches, Secret teachers, self-help gurus, and the like, say to EXPECT YOUR DESIRE without a doubt, while others say to DESIRE WITH DETACHMENT - desire without need?  Many of the teachers of "The Secret" say to expect your desire with unwavering faith, while other self-help and spiritual masters like Deepak Chopra and Wayne Dyer say to desire with detachment, intend without needing.  It's just two different ways of looking at or doing virtually the same thing and getting similiar, if not equal, results.

Example of Expecting Your Desire Without A Doubt:

Desire:  "I want $10,000 of unexpected income (by June 1st, 2007)."  Because of my core beliefs, at my subconscious level, I know that I can achieve this (that it is possible for me) and because I know that I CAN achieve this, I know that I WILL achieve it (because if I know I can achieve something I want, why would I not achieve it?).  Everyday I say to myself something like, "I am so happy and grateful for the $10,000 of unexpected income" (Positive Affirmation) and I say it with feeling so that I really do believe everyday that if I don't have it yet, I'm just one day closer to having it.  I never experience any feelings of doubt or worry or fear that I won't get it, because I EXPECT it.  Expecting means there is no doubt, ever - it's a core belief and a faith.  (Expecting does not mean saying you expect something but subconsciously not believing what you're saying - that's just ineffective Positive Thinking.)  So expecting your desire is knowing or expecting that you will get exactly what you want.  Think about times you've honestly expected something - you didn't worry that you wouldn't get it, because you knew that you would.

Example of Desiring With Detachment - Without Need:

Desire:  "I want $10,000 of unexpected income (by June 1st, 2007)" - same desire as above.  Because of my core beliefs, at my subconscious level, I know that I can achieve this, and I know that I don't need to achieve it, and furthermore, I know that if for some reason I don't achieve this exact thing, I will simply achieve something better that what I wanted, for example a larger amount of money, or by a sooner date.  Everyday I say to myself something like, "I will have $10,000 of unexpected income by June 1st, 2007, or something better!"  And again, I say it with real feeling that supports my belief in my statement.  And everyday that passes that I don't achieve it, I continue to affirm it and know that if I don't get it, it's only going to be something better, so I'm excited about whether I get exactly what I want or a surprise.  The concept of getting either what you want or something better is meant to help deter you from getting attached to or needing that exact thing, which makes it less likely to manifest.  The feeling of need or attachment to the exact desire is an expression of the lack of faith you have that you can or will achieve it.  And feelings of need and attachment are not good feelings because they are feelings of stress and worry and those do not make us feel happy.  When we want without need or attachment, we can remain happy and full of faith that we will achieve our desire.  So desiring with detachment is knowing or expecting that you will either get exactly what you want or something even better.  Now think about times when you've wanted something-specific-or-better - you didn't worry that you wouldn't get the exact thing because you knew you didn't need it and you'd keep moving forward until you got that thing or something better.

Both examples have complete faith that at least their desire will be achieved, but the faith is on slightly different things.  In the first example, there is a clear, primary faith that you will get exactly what you want.  In the second example, the faith is secondary, in that you have faith that you'll get either exactly what you want or something better.  Which type of desire you choose, is up to you... some find it easier to expect to get exactly what they ask for while others find it easier to expect at least what they ask for, but leave themselves flexible and open to the power of the universe.  Or some people use the type of desire that fits the situation best, sometimes using the first example and sometimes using the second.  For example, I might expect to get an exact car in the model and color that I want (first example), while I desire with detachment to find a certain type of partner who has x, y, and z qualities or better (second example). 

Just don't confuse expecting exactly what you desire with desiring with detachment - if you desire something exactly and are lacking both the expectance and the detachment, you are doing neither method - you are desiring with attachment.  When you are desiring without expectance and without detachment (or when you desire with attachment or need) you are not believing that you can and will have what you desire or something better.  Therefore, you must choose one method or the other.