The Human Body: Embrace Our Sexuality
I have many family members and peers that think that certain clothes are a sin to wear. Off the shoulder,above the knee, spagetti straps, tight shirts, two piece bathing suits. Heaven forbid a woman go without a bra. I was in a grocery store one day and my aunt and cousin gasped and turned over a magazine with a picture of a girl wearing a bikini on the cover so that no one could see the shameful photo. If there is ever a commercial with a couple making out, my aunt changes the channel.
My cousin gave me a shirt that she said was too tight for her. I tried it on and she looked away and said that it fit me the same way it fit her. It fit me the way it was supposed to! It wasn't even tight!
It is not a sin to be comfortable with our bodies.
When I went to church, I was told that sex was a sin. This is funny because in MY interpretation of the Song of Solomon, they talk quite a lot about sex, and they do not seem to disfavor it. The people went on to say that when a girl wears revealing clothes, she sins because she is making boys think dirty, sinful thoughts, making them sin. Guys do that anyways, even if you are wearing a birqa.
We are animals. What do animals do? Eat, sleep, and have sex.
Its crucial to the survival of the human race. Humans have done many monstrosities that they only did because they were capable of doing it. But God would not have made our SURVIVAL depend on sex if it were sinful, if the thought, desire, and act were a bad thing in His eyes.
Adam and Eve ran around naked. It wasn't until Adam ate the Forbidden Fruit that they became ashamed of their bodies and tried to hide their sexuality. God didn't want them to eat the fruit for various reasons. Their ultimate sin, in my opinion, was becoming ashamed of the very thing God had created. Their bodies, which were made in His image. They realized they were naked and became ashamed. Why? God knew they were naked. He made them that way.
Leaves cover up less than a mini skirt. And most bathing suits.
I am NOT for pre-maritial sex. I think that is all about the person's decision. That is none of my business. If you are comfortable with your body, don't be afraid of showing it off every now and then. I don't think those old people at the church knew what they were talking about. If dressing a certain way is sinful, then simply being pretty is sinful and God in His infinite wisdom made me that way. I get disgusting looks from jerk faces no matter what I wear. I KNOW those men are thinking dirty thoughts when they do it.
I am an attractive young woman with a head on my shoulders and a healthy sex drive. God did not make me to cover myself up and to keep quiet and frigid.
Women were God's gift to men (though some men may argue). Think about it. Adam was lonely and wanted companionship. God gave him that through Eve, the nourisher. Women (in general) are beautiful. God wanted them to be that way. He would not have given us to men as a gift if legs, hips and breasts were monsrosities that should be gasped at if seen. No wonder some men are afraid vaginas have fangs! People are afraid of shoulders for crying out loud! A woman should not be called a slut for wearing off the shoulder shirts. I do and that is because I am proud of the way I look. Yes. I like it when men look at me. To a certain extent. But the ones that go too far are the ones that are repulsive and would do so whether I were wearing a a space suit or standing in front of them butt naked. But I do not dress the way I do merely for attention. I dress this way for me. Because I like to and am comfortable with myself. I was given the gift of beauty and I appreciate it. I am proud of what I am and who I am. My clothes are me.
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great blog
My wife, myself and another married couple, "friends of ours" were just discussing why womens clothing always seem to be more, exciting if you will. You know, more form fitting and generally overall less boring trhan men's clothing. The female form, to all of us, seems to be a work of art when compared to men's. Women's clothing has seemingly, at least over the past fifty years or so, began to accentuate the graceful curves and enable their bodies to be comfortable, clothed.
I you go back further to the days of the shoestring lace corsetts you will even notice that this served the purpose of slimming the waist, pushing up the breasts and so on. Thereby attracting attention to the female form, allbeit an uncomfortable method of doing so for the women.
When I hear the older generation speaking of how things have gotten out of hand with modern clothing, I like to think that what we are seeing now is only a natural state of evolution. When women want a certain look, the free market will facilitate that look. Men will sometimes be a motivation and sometimes they won't. When people are comfortable with themselves, and confident it will shine through, and manifest itself into the person you view yourself as being, in your case a sensual being.
We all have the right to be appauled at whatever we deem apauling to us as individuals. Yet we all have the right to feel good about ourselves, and dress the way we want in order to facilitate that good feeling in the appropriate places.
For example, you wouldn't normally wear a bikinni to a wedding reception, but if the wedding reception was a bikinni event then you would. You would not wear a bikinni to your office job, but if you were a bikinni model then it would be your normal attire at work.
In short we wear what makes us feel good about ourselves, and we should not be required to dress a certain way simply to please people, unless it is an attempt at pleasing a significant other. Those who would seek to make us feel bad because of our preferences, have no power over us to make us feel bad unless it is given to them by the individual.
This site is a great idea because it is a platform to aid us live better lives, share uplifting wisdom and knowledge. Thank you for sharing your story.
I have nothing against a
I have nothing against a person being comfortable with her own body, and i dont think Sex should be considered a sin because its the only way to reproduce however i dont like it that women feel that they have to dress and look a certain way in order for guys to like them.
there is so much more to a woman than her body. I think that in order to create a better future people should focus more on the mind than the body because its vanity and greed that is destroying us now.
If more people would spend money on helping the homeless and improving education instead of spending money on name brand clothes and over price makeup the world would be a much better place..
Gnat
I agree that more attention
I agree that more attention should be paid to the needy. Name brand clothes and make-up (which I hardly wear) are not on my list of things that would make the world a better place. Infact, most of my clothes I either had since middle school or are hand me downs! (:D I just accessorize differently and wear the clothes my mom wouldn't let me wear when I was 12 [thank God she didn't too]). Also, I agree that there is more to a woman than her body. I have just been frustrated for quite some time now with how in our society wants women to look a certain way, but then beats us down for being "promiscuous" and slutty, when for one thing, the degree of promisicuity is dependent of one's opinion. There is nothing wrong with looking this way, I don't see what the problem is with some people.
One thing I cannot stand are little girls wearing tube tops and mini skirts, some not even in middle school. I see that all the time when I go out into a public setting. I really don't like it when women dress overtly provacative soley for attention. I like getting attention. Most women do. But that is not why I dress this way, (I don't even think my dress style is that revealing).
I do feel, however, that if we were more comfortable with ourselves, physically, spiritually and emotionally, then we will be more comfortable with others, and will therefore be more open minded.
I believe that we have to accept ourselves to accept others, and the physical is the most tangible so that is the first door way to self acceptance. I believe that we AT FIRST, aren't fit to help others, we just simply are incapable of doing so with a positive effect, until we come to a realization of self.
I know, i feel really vain
I know, i feel really vain when i start obsessing about my body or whatever. i notice when i'm focusing on something fulfilling like watching the science channel or helping out a friend, i dont care as much about how i look. being satisfied with how i look does not sustain me for as long as helping a dear friend or learning something new.
anyway, good thoughts...nice to hear from you:)
I live in Vegas...
In this town you see it all, and nothing is much of a shock (although it was when I moved to Vegas from Chicago, six years ago.) I am 45 and have learned that there is a classy way to dress sexy and a tacky way to dress sexy. The key is to draw attention to ONE asset, not ALL assets. For example, if you want your focus to be your upper half, then wear a sexy top! The key is to pair it with something that is more conservative (not a tight, mini skirt). The same thing goes if you want to draw attention to your lower half – wear something sexy with a top that does not reveal too much. There is nothing wrong with dressing sexy. There is also nothing to be gained by dressing like a hooker. No one will take you seriously, and men will see you as a disposable toy, rather than the beautiful woman you are.
I am a big fan of feeling and looking sexy, and know how easy it is to attract men with revealing clothing. This will sound very 1950s, but it is much better to go through life acting like a lady, dressing classy and sexy (but not hooker like), and putting your energy into improving who you are on the inside. Those of us who are older know that beauty and perfect bodies don’t last forever, and that true happiness comes from what you have to offer on the inside, loving and appreciating who you are, and loving and appreciating everyone around you.
As far as sex goes – be careful, be safe, and BE PARTICULAR!!! : )
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