More Sex, Better Sex!

Is sex with your partner getting a little routine?  Would you like sex more often?  Have you been wanting anything different from your sex life whatsoever, that you just can't seem to get?  You can have the sex life of your dreams!!!  The Law of Attraction, which says "like attracts like," can and does do all things in our lives - so whether you realize it or not, you've attracted your current sex life through your thoughts and focus.  Now all you need to do is use the Law of Attraction in your favor to make some sex-life improvements!  Read the tips below to improve your sex life right now!

Basic Steps Toward Improving Your Sex Life Immediately

1. Stop any and all negative thoughts about your sex life, or thoughts about what you don't want from your sex life - for example "I hope she doesn't do ____ again tonight," "why can't I get laid?," "I bet we're not having sex tonight," "I'm not pretty, no one wants to have sex with me" "sex with the same person has gotten boring,..." etc!  Any thoughts like those will only keep you experiencing what you don't want from your sex life, so simply start to ignore whatever you do not want sex-wise from now on, because 'what you focus on expands'!

2. Start being grateful for any good things in your sex life or your life in general.  This will shift your view from the negative things you don't want to the positive things you do want.  If you're having sex regularly but it's gotten boring, say (silently or aloud) "I'm grateful that I have someone who loves me and loves having sex with me" or "I'm grateful for all her other qualities, and I know she'll start livening up in bed soon!".  If you're not having any sex, say "I'm grateful for wanting to have sex and being physically able to have sex," "I'm grateful for my friends and my career," or "I'm grateful for the sex that I've had," etc!  When you're grateful, you open yourself up to new things, people, and experiences.

3. Decide what you actually do want from your sex life!   Decide what you do want and say that instead (to yourself or aloud) - using the examples above - "I hope we do ____ tonight," "I want to get laid," "I want us to have sex tonight," "I have lots of great qualities, and someone definitely wants to have sex with me," "I want sex with the same person to be exciting every time" etc.  Put your thoughts, focus, and attention only on what you do want, but do it in a detached way.

4. If you want something too desperately, you won't get it, so always keep this in mind:  "I want ____, but if I don't get it, I'll get something better!"  For example, "I want us to have sex tonight, but if we don't, something better will happen!"  This could mean you two do something more fun than a usual night of sex, or it could mean you have great morning sex, or sex twice the next day, etc - you get the point!  Wanting something too desperately is a form of worry and worrying is a form of thinking about what you don't want (see #1 again!).

My guess is that with the 4 simple steps above, you will start to see a great turnaround in your sex life, but if you're really in a rut and need a bigger boost, try the next step.

5. Practice visualizing daily (right before bed or after awaking, or before or after a nap) the kind of sex life you want.  Visualizing is more about the feelings you sense when you imagine having what you want - feeling it as real, as though you already have what it is you want.  Visualize doing a sex position with your partner that you've always wanted to try (call it fantasizing rather than visualizing if you prefer!).  Or visualize having sex in an unusual location or at an unusual time with your partner - whatever is exciting to you and whatever you want to do in your sex life!  Or visualize a new person in your life that you enjoy having sex with - whatever you want, whatever is enjoyable to visualize or fantasize!  You can learn more about visualization techniques in the Visualization article on this website: http://goodkarma.org/node/18

Feel free to ask questions, make comments or other suggestions to this blog entry or in the Forums.  I hope you find this information helpful!!!